The #1 Thing My Clients Struggle With

I want you to take a pause for a moment and ask yourself:

Who and what do I take care of every day?

Include people, pets, plants, and your home.

Where are you on the list?

(Credit to my mentor Mary Thompson for this short, but insightful exercise)

I know, you know.

You need to be at the top of your own list.

The #1 thing I see my clients struggling with is prioritizing themselves.

Here’s the tricky thing. This might not be exactly the right way to look at it.

Taking care of yourself shouldn’t be a “priority.” Taking care of yourself is foundational.

It is difficult to truly be of service to others when our own needs (including nourishing food, good sleep, and enough rest) aren’t met.

We often spend much of our 20s and 30s thinking we’re invincible, ignoring our bodies' needs (which also affect the mind). As one of my teachers says, “we’re just emptying our energetic savings account.”

Then, we get older; we hit perimenopause and start to have symptoms, and we blame it on “aging,” when it’s often an accumulation of how we’ve been living up until then.

A few tips:

✨Remember - You’re in charge of your life and your calendar

✨Use that calendar to set boundaries; find spaces in the day that are easiest to block out for yourself

✨Practice simple self-love daily- affix a note to your mirror to remind yourself that you are worthy of your own love, and you can’t pour from an empty cup

✨Ask your family for help (whew, I KNOW, letting them know we have needs… a hard one)

✨It doesn’t have to be perfect- small habits add up

Taking care of yourself is an investment in your health, and ultimately in your family (because they need and love you!)-- and what you model ripples out.

We’re often resistant to the medicine we need the most.

I want you to ask yourself two more questions (credit to my teacher Myra Lewin for these gems):

What are you trying to prove by how you're living?

Who are you trying to prove it to?

Remember that you are divine, and who you are has nothing to do with what you accomplish in a day (or a lifetime).